If you spend any time paying attention to world events or caring about social causes, it can be easy to feel powerless in today’s society. Regaining your personal power and strength can help you to feel more in control and less stressed about life and its many obstacles and choices.
How Are You Giving Away Your Power?
There are many things you may be doing that relinquish your personal power to other people. When you give away your power, you are left with less or none, which can lead to feelings of hopelessness, shame, anger, and fear. Here are some of the ways you may be giving away your power.
1. You want to be accepted, liked, or protected. You likely give away some of your power to others when you have a powerful desire to be well-liked. Pleasing others so that you fit in is a common way you relinquish your power to others.
2. You think it is good to be a victim. Many of us choose to be the victim because it is easier, it makes someone else happy, or otherwise pleases someone else at your expense. For some, playing the victim is akin to being a martyr, something we do for virtuous reasons. Being a victim means the world is acting upon you, which denies your responsibilities in your choices or actions, and it causes you to worry about or regret many decisions you may make.
3. You decide to allow others to tell you who you are. As adults, our most significant responsibility is to continue to evolve and grow as we age and experience the world. Developing your core self means you decide to author your own story, not allowing others to influence you or to tell you who you should be.
How to Regain Your Personal Power
If you are ready to take back your personal power, here are some steps you can take to carry out this goal.
Step 1: Prioritize Yourself
Making yourself a priority in your life is crucial to taking back your power. Until you understand that your health, well-being, and happiness IS the goal of your life, then you are just going to spin your wheels. Making sure that you value yourself means you believe you deserve to be happy and to achieve your goals. It also means you think your needs are just as important as anyone else’s.
Step 2: Clarify Your Goals, Then Write a Plan
Get clear about what parts of yourself you would like to improve. Examine the components to personal strength to determine in which areas you need the most work. Create a plan and write down the action steps you will use to help you accomplish these goals. A plan in your mind is just a dream. Writing it down helps you visualize where you need action steps and where things could potentially go wrong. Be sure to have a backup for areas where you know you are likely to go astray.
Step 3: Get Rid of the Reasons Why You Can’t
It is easy to make excuses about why you can’t change or make improvements in yourself. Take responsibility for your past mistakes and use those to help you banish any reasons for continuing to give away your power.
Step 4: Stay Focused
Focus on what you want to accomplish with your improved senses of personal power. Remember why you chose to embark on this journey and imagine how your life or feelings about yourself will change once you have achieved greater personal strength.
Above all, remember that your personal strength is yours and the only person that can take it from you is you.